As we find our presence during this late fall & early winter in relationship to various holidays, the qualities of gratitude & generosity hold a special place & opportunity for each & all of us… in our formal Dharma practices & in our life as our practice.
We usually think of generosity as the practice of giving, though in its fullness it is both giving and receiving… a process which clearly helps to purify & transform the contraction of separateness that is engendered by self-centeredness.
Generosity is a perfectly natural aspect of our humanness & universally recognized as one of our most basic human virtues. We offer/we give, we receive. We cultivate & manifest generosity in a thousand different ways, no matter our culture, our age, no matter who we are within this universal seamless circle of generosity.
The development & deepening of the heart quality of generosity directly inspires & feeds the purification & transformation of clinging, stinginess & hoarding. Our practice of generosity also inspires & feeds the purification & transformation of the fear & attachment that are so closely linked to the uncomfortable energies of greed & resistance.
The Buddha always began his teaching offerings to new groups of people with some words about generosity. One of the things that he often
said was, “If beings knew, as I know, the results of sharing gifts, they would not enjoy their gifts without sharing them with others, nor would the taint of stinginess obsess the heart & stay there. Even if it is your last bit of food, you would enjoy its use more by sharing it, if there was anyone to receive it.” And a primary teaching that he offered his Monastic Sangha was, “Thus you must train yourselves: We will be thankful & grateful. Not even the least thing that is done for us shall be forgotten.” The great beauty of a way of life… the practice of the heart… a life of GIVING & RECEIVING.
I especially love this time of year because it lights up this basic essential Buddhist teaching & way of life. As our practice develops & our discerning capacity grows, we begin to more clearly see & know that everything changes hands or just simply dissolves. Is there anything that really has any hard & fast owners? When we touch into this truth, it can be a powerful factor that inclines us towards cultivating our inner wealth… the inner wealth of generosity, mindfulness, patience, loving kindness, joy & equanimity. An inner wealth of generosity is a powerful medicine. It’s an antidote to the anguish & confusion that is generated through the conditioning/training of accumulating, and then fixating on & identifying with our material & mental accumulations.
We can cultivate a life & help to cultivate a culture of mutual flourishing… a life & culture of balance, reciprocity & regeneration. With our Dharma practice we are learning to receive life fully, be kind, grateful & generous. This very life is our path to the deepest ease of a presence of well-being & joy and is intimately connected to the development of a deep generosity of heart.
May this holiday time & the upcoming new year be filled with warmth, kindness, love, gratitude, generosity, joy, and a sense of balance & equanimity for you, for your loved ones & for all beings everywhere.
With love, Marcia Rose
TMH founding & guiding teacher
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We can study discourses and sermons, we can read countless books, we can hear hundreds or perhaps even thousands of talks. Although these secondary sources give us many clues about the nature of our world, only direct experience can give us true insight into the most essential aspects of our reality, especially impermanence.
There is a story told of a wandering ascetic on a journey in search of the Buddha to receive the teachings on freedom from suffering. Not finding him, he comes to a resting place one evening and stays the night at a lodge. As it happened, the Buddha was staying at the same place but because the ascetic didn’t recognize the Buddha, the next morning he left to continue his search. He missed meeting the Buddha who was right there! This is a compassion evoking story – to be so near, yet so far from the path to freedom.
A few mornings ago, I woke up & could fully take into my heart the reality that I am going to die. Usually, this feels like just a thought or idea, but this time, it landed deeply. I was struck by the Buddha’s recommendation to reflect on death daily, and this reflection brought a profound awareness of the poignancy of ordinary experiences—the routines that fill my day.
embodied mindfulness in everyday actions—walking, sitting, lying down, standing, reaching, eating, and even sleeping.
These practices disrupt the narrow, habitual ways we relate to life. They allow deeper ways of perceiving & being in the world to emerge. By tuning into the extraordinary in the ordinary, we touch something profound & mysterious that transcends the notion of “I” doing something. This insight into the selfless nature of experience can inform how we live these brief lives of ours.
What is it that enables us to move towards ‘being a Buddha?’ What makes one a true heir of the Buddha? A phrase that the Buddha often used – “ehi-passika,” come & see – is an invitation not to come & believe, but to come & see for ourselves what is true. To come & see in this way requires great interest, willingness & courage which includes a growing faith that blossoms out of our own direct experience, interest, willingness & courage to look with humility… directly, deeply, & honestly into the body, the heart & the mind… without relying on what others say is true via what we’ve heard or read. To come & see in this way requires that we don’t settle into the inertia of our habitual perceptions of, our relationships to, or our self-identifications with our inner & outer experience.
day, we were connecting with & knowing ‘where we were’ again & again in so many ways & on so many levels, that the intermediary of a Global Positioning System seemed absurd.
…I know firsthand that chronic bodily pain can eat deeply into the entrails of the spirit. It can cast dark shadows over the chambers of the heart & pull one down into moods of dejection & despair. I cannot claim to have triumphed over pain, but in the course of our long relationship, I’ve discovered some guidelines that have helped me to endure the experience.
“Whatever feelings there may be—past, present, or future—all feeling is not mine, not I, not my self.” Benefiting from this technique does not require deep samadhi or a breakthrough to profound insight. Even using this formula during periods of reflective contemplation helps to create a distance between oneself & one’s experience of pain.
My yearly endeavor of Spring, Summer & Fall gardening was not possible last year. I was very sick… sick enough to be in hospital for a month & then sent home in hospice. As it all evolved, I ‘graduated from hospice above ground, which is very unusual,” as one of my doctors said. This year, my 84th, I am back to growing much of my food & tending the extensive flower gardens that grace this piece of northern New Mexico ground I have the honor of living on.
change & perishing… every animate & inanimate form of life displays & goes through this inevitable process. As each of us life forms move through this totally natural process, we are also in the midst of an intimate & intricate interdependent relationship with all other life forms, both near & far. My teacher, the garden, clearly displays & reflects this. I recognize again & again that this is also my human reality, if I’m willing to let this truth in.
Today I sat outside in the rain under the roof of the small porch behind my house… openhearted, in love & fully present to all that was visibly being rained on, and to the many birds that were eating, singing & appeared in their own way to be enjoying the gentle rain that was moisturizing everything. Today was an experience of ‘garden bathing’ at its best… feeling intrinsically deeply grateful for & joyfully intertwined in the amazing abundance of life forms appearing all around me.
because of its comprehensiveness in teaching the objects that are the best for cultivating mindfulness through meditation: the body, feeling tones of pleasant-impermanent-unpleasant, the mind, and Dhammas (teachings of the Buddha).
The clue is, Are you O.K.?
experience. I ask them to consider whether, if they had a friend who spoke that way, they would keep that friend. The moment in which people discover they are not holding themselves in compassion, not speaking kindly, is often startling and always sad. That awareness is sometimes enough to cause the critic’s voice to soften, and the soother’s voice to be heard.
The Buddha described five additional, specific benefits of walking meditation. The first is that one who does walking meditation will have the stamina to go on long journeys. This was important in the Buddha’s time, when bhikkhus & bhikkhunis, monks and nuns, had no form of transportation other than their feet & legs. You who are meditating today can consider yourselves to be bhikkhus, and can think of this benefit simply as physical strengthening.
